Why not just join sex sites?

Originally Posted by pharmgrl1

I have been divorced for 10 years. After that I spent a couple of years on dating sites, but haven't touched them since.
During my time there I had several conversations including:
1. Men told me that if a woman isn't visually attractive (which includes over-weight) then they will have a harder time on dating sights because men are more visual first. BBW's do better in person where physical chemistry can take the guy past the physical appearance.
2. Several men told me that unless the man feels needed in the relationship they will feel disrespected. A woman who doesn't need the man makes them feel lesser which is why woman who are too independent have issues with men.
3. Quite a few men have difficulties with commitment and prefer the artificial intimacy of online dating. Others want a long-term relationship but the majority are willing to go through a dozen "miss near-rights" to get there and sex is part of the deal.
4. 80% of the conversation is dominated by 20% of the people and hostility, bullying, manipulation is standard operating procedure for members of these sites regardless of gender.
5. Women tend to come across desperate and willing to Venus-Fly Trap any man who pays attention to them.

My daughter set me up on facebook and so I came over here to see what the dating communities were up to half-a-dozen years later... Eek! These are the same conversations that were going on then. Each gender claiming the other is unjustly bashing them; men overstepping their right to physical contact; women snarking & biting... I seriously worry for the human race.

these are your fact not THE facts. 8 years on dating sites I see it differently.
Sure seems to be another gender based biased post. Men are the cause of all evil.. Men push physical contact? You need to go to the chatrooms..women talk trash as much if not more than men. Women push physical contact as much.
Could this be the men you are meeting and not all men?
I do agree with chat bullys, always been there, always will be.
Attraction is a personal preference not a whole gender based opinion.
IMHO

Originally Posted by cheeze80s

Not sure about things always having to be 'a challenge' to men.
I imagine Professional women on sex sites probably laugh their
@sses off when confronted by these horny toads.

Some men probably think, at least here, they can cry a river,
maybe land a 'pity' lay if anything.

the other poster was correct that women snark and still attempt to lay all the worlds blame on men.
Horney toadettes are all over these posts and chats..open your eyes, things have changed.

Originally Posted by injeanious

It really is a shame because they ruin it for the good guys. It gets to the point where you don't know who to believe anymore and I am always skeptical. I know thats a good way to be to a degree but I don't want to push away the right guy but being too cautious due to other jerks in the past.

That is why I don't want guys at my place. It turns out that sex is their motive.

Yes when we figure them out they get mad, blame us and expect an apology. I am not paranoid about my love life. Everything I have I bought. I have platonic friends, never cared about if a guy loves me.

I can't stand the liars who tell me everything to my face, then go off with someone else.

Originally Posted by thewritestuff4u

. Why do men join traditional dating sites, insisting that they want a "relationship," when, in fact, they just want to get laid?

Why don't they quit wasting everyone's time and just join sex sites?

I don't want to catch anything. I think slutty women are interesting but would rather avoid them. I also think that many of them are after more than sex. The possibility of potential problems seems to be too high.

Now, for the rest of the answer...

OK, so you see these men as just wanting to get laid. Maybe some of them do, but I think there are a lot of guys who want to get laid AND are looking for a women to continue to have sex with. That could be construed as a LTR. I freely admit that I'm here for the purpose of finding a sex partner BUT I would prefer finding a relationship. I had a relationship with a slutty woman once and I was always wondering if she was with someone else. No thanks. At least with my current plans I'll KNOW she's with someone else cause I'll be there too.

Let me ask the same type question but turned around. My profile clearly states I'm looking for a nsa mutual fun relationship. no ltr, no marriage - just a fuck buddy that's fun to be with. I've gotten hundreds of e-mails from ladies, some more than 100 miles from me, looking for just that ltr's, marriages, father for kids, etc. What's up with that? Lesson is read the other person's profile first, then ck here in the forums (there are some people on here who say they looking for Mr. Goodbar but talk like they'd fuck a snake if you held it still long enough), then take a chance a see where it goes. No one gender has a monopoly of crassness or crudeness.

Originally Posted by surfingdruid

Let me ask the same type question but turned around. My profile clearly states I'm looking for a nsa mutual fun relationship. no ltr, no marriage - just a fuck buddy that's fun to be with. I've gotten hundreds of e-mails from ladies, some more than 100 miles from me, looking for just that ltr's, marriages, father for kids, etc. What's up with that? Lesson is read the other person's profile first, then ck here in the forums (there are some people on here who say they looking for Mr. Goodbar but talk like they'd fuck a snake if you held it still long enough), then take a chance a see where it goes. No one gender has a monopoly of crassness or crudeness.

i aree, women can be dogs too!! just like the other guy said they are just as crude in the chatrooms if not more so than the guys!!! so dont judge ALL men by a few experiences youve had

Ok so, when my profile specifically states that I won't be a booty call, why are those the only inquiries that I get?

When I was in my twenties I use to go bar hopping to meet women and most women went to meet guys..that's when none of us were married or had kids.. Most of the people on these sites are divorced and either don't want to bar hop or because of family commitments don't think it's a good idea.. So we look for mr or ms right and part of the process is becoming intimate .No different than before .If the relationship works you don't hearabout it because they get off the sites...Ive actually broke up with women who had small kids not because of the kids but because mommy just wanted to go out friday nite for dinner a few drinks and some sack time and off to the kids ...Sounds like im insane but I actually do want to meet someone for the long haul....

I am male, I do look for women on dating sites that enjoy sex. I do not try to fool anyone. I am blunt, I ask if you want sex. You can say no, delete me or in more than one reply, I get a request for a picture, some send a cell number. So ladies, not all women on here are just looking for a date, some want more. George.

Well, you see what I called this thread? I am hoping to find someone for an actual relationship, but all the men I find who say they are looking for "Miss Right," actually seem to be looking for "Miss Right Now!" I agree, why don't they just go to sex sites??? It is really disheartening to me, and I have resigned several times, only to come back because I really don't want to give up that easy.