Single and hating it

If your in good shape, it wont matter how many kids you have!!
Your kids could be Chuckys nightmare and men will still flock to you. A fat ass and chest and your all good seety.
But thats if your in Good Sexy ass shape. See that the thing men dont care really. Just keep up with your self. well fill in the rest. ( get it fill in the rest) yeah i know at times im a pig.... But women like me lol

Originally Posted by irishdrinks

Try being a single father, I would say about 90% of all woman on this site that i've contacted, even those who say that would be interested in dating someone with kids. are not willing to date a man with kids. I read posts like yours, I really don't feel sorry that much for you, I know it's difficult. I have been a single father "with full custody" for 15 years, since my son was 4 mos. old. I know what Hard is..... I don't mean to be a jerk, and I'm sure I've probally come across that way and I'm sorry, but the fact is that woman have it easier than men.

BULLSHIT...women are just a whole lot smarting then men in most departments, so don't get it twisted...ooooops! too late.

I'm going to be blunt here so please don't take offense. There's alot of pretty good advice your getting her from others. One thing you need to be aware of is the Low lifes that will try to make you think he is sinsere about how he feels towards you just to get into your pants and then he leaves. This can really comfuse and hurt your kids. They want only the best for you and when this guys comes into your life and they accept him and then he leaves, the kids get hit really hard. Don't be in such a hurry to have a relationship. Your only setting yourself up for a hard fall. We live in a I want it now age and this is screwing alot of people up. Real love isn't controled by you or the other person. It's a natural process. Of course we throw things into the process to be with a certain person but most of it happens on its own. So be patient and don't get in no hurry. Enjoy your kids while you got them. Make them your priotity. BUT if you do get seriouse and happen to fall in love, Then you make sure the man in your life is Number one. Even before you kids. That is really important.

I had my first child when I was young, when he was 3 I met and married a great guy - well he was a great father. He adopted my son and when my son was almost 16 we divorced. My son chose to stay with him. He still is a great father to all 3 of our kids, it was just me he didn't love. Oh well.

My stepson is the biggest reason for me and my wife getting a divorce she would not make him own up to his resposibiltys . I would date somebody with kids again i would have to be more careful on my choices . I love kids and its really sad this had to happen this way.

Originally Posted by singlesyrmom

I am a single mother with 2 young boys trying to get back into the dating scene. One problem I have had is that as soon as a guy finds out I have kids I never hear back from them. I dont understand why guys dont want to be with woman who have kids. I am ready to give up completely and just stay single but I hate being single. Anyone have any advice?

Here's an honest suggestion. Learn to like being single and the guys will find that attractive. I deliberately took three years getting to know myself again, like myself and finally came to the place that allows me to know that I'm in charge of my own happiness.

When you hate where you are in life, others pick up that vibe and it turns people off. I enjoy being single. Would I like a guy in my life? Yes. Do I need a guy in my life to make me happy? No.

There have been guys that wanted to take me out. Honestly, in my age range and in my group of friends, single guys are hard to find. But, unfortunately, the ones that I've met have generally had some major issues. One of the most common has been alcohol problems, otherwise they're great guys.

But I have been finding that more guys, and people in general, are attracted to me, or want to be friends with me, because I am more confident and am more myself than I have been in decades. Sure, there are still things I don't like to do alone, the movies being one of them, but I get out there and enjoy my life.

Kids or no kids, the dating world is a jungle! The only kid I have is a cat, and it's still not easy. There are a lot of damaged people out there who lack the ability to connect. That's especially true on dating sites, which often are cesspools filled with sharks. You'd be better off trying to meet like-minded men face-to-face. There are plenty of guys with kids who are looking to meet women with kids. Get involved in your community; take classes; join clubs; get involved with your kids' school. I think you'll have much better luck with that as opposed to what actually are singles bars in cyberspace.

Originally Posted by singlesyrmom

I am a single mother with 2 young boys trying to get back into the dating scene. One problem I have had is that as soon as a guy finds out I have kids I never hear back from them. I dont understand why guys dont want to be with woman who have kids. I am ready to give up completely and just stay single but I hate being single. Anyone have any advice?

Take the advice of the posters who have advised you to keep on looking and also to join Parents without Partners. The men who run (after contacting you knowing you already have children) will never commit to anything... better you know this right away. Discourage those who contact you who state in their profiles that they DON'T WANT kids (match. com). Make sure your profile says you have children, so you can weed out the runners and don't get continually hurt by those who don't want them. Hang in there...it's a numbers and waiting game...:-(

date men with kids. Also, let them know that you have babysitters available.