Mid Life Crisis

My husband left me after 14 years of marriage for 4 different women. How am I suppose to compete with that? I am told that I am sexy and beautiful but after that many years what can I do??

I went through a similar situation, but I decided to let my girlfriends take me by the hand and engage in evenings out to meet new friends and focus on my attributes without discussing my situation with any other "possible" new gentleman friends. Take a day at the spa now and again to make yourself feel special (because u r), and relax knowing that your beauty will come from within and your new life is so worth looking forward to. Focus on the new possibilities, walk tall and smile knowing you are well above the past situation,..one door closes and two other doors will most likely open. xoxo from Canada

yes its tough no doubt, especially at our age

Originally Posted by sreview02

My husband left me after 14 years of marriage for 4 different women. How am I suppose to compete with that? I am told that I am sexy and beautiful but after that many years what can I do??

Shouldn't feel the need to compete or lose your dignity trying. Those prone to cheating will find a reason to do so regardless what you say or do.

Sorry for your heartache but not all guys are assholes & cheat. I never have or will & don't intentionally date those married or attached.

Originally Posted by sreview02

My husband left me after 14 years of marriage for 4 different women. How am I suppose to compete with that? I am told that I am sexy and beautiful but after that many years what can I do??

4 women, what are you really competing with?
Like he's going to be with any of them in the end?

The previous post is right.
Time to catch up on good times with your girl friends on Ladys' night.
Your confidence will grow and you can only be a better
person from it.

Same thing happened to me. But after 18 years, one day she came to me to say she still loved me but she missed the excitement of being with someone new. Her words " being with someone sexually for the first time, the excitiment" It was all about her, we both had great jobs, income property,lots of trappings of life, got to travel quite a bit and very little debt.Also a very active sex life and a lot of communication.... so my advice :::: keep your head high, the sun in your face and love in your heart and it will be ok. Ride the wave

I was married 19 years. She left me for this biker dued and lied about it. Ihad people tell me it was evidently clear especially at work that she was messing around with this other co-worker from work. We worked at the same place. She started seeing this guy who was a biker dude Harley Davidson all over everything. she started hanging out at the bike shop all the time buying all of these expensive HD clothes wearing black lipstick oh it was aweful. We lost the house, she didn't care we moved to an apartment nearly got evicted, she didn't care.Sure as heck not the woman I married. Then came the $400 speeding ticket in a place she had no business in in the first place. She threatened me with a weapon and then said I walked out on her. Ok if I stayed even after the cops were there in which they were, I'd be in jail. She threatened me with the weapon. In my state the man is always in the wrong by default. Besides the cops were women they wouldn't have listened to me. So I just got the heck out and am single again hoping to one day perhaps have it right again.
I'm never going to have material things for a very long time. I have no money, no anything really, and that includes credit. I am essentially destroyed in everything. In the time it takes to repair all of those things, I won't be interested anymore. I'm somebody who had worked hard for everything I had just to have it all taken away. Glad I never had kids to spare them from all of that.
If another woman was to really want me, she would want to have me for me because right now that's all that I am. She wouldn't be looking to me for credit, money, a house or any material thing because I don't have it. Besides, I am slightly disabled too, so I am not able to be the primary bread-winner. It's not that I wouldn't work, sure I would work. I work hard and am good at what I do but what I do is not anything super substantial monetarily. What I do is about the only thing in the world that will never go away because it's required by law. I don't have a college education because of my disability and the lack of funding to go have certain things done before I could ever think to try it again. I'm too old now to be worried about trivial things like college anyway. Why be indebted for the rest of my life to Sallie Mae?

Originally Posted by looneytunez

I was married 19 years. She left me for this biker dued and lied about it. Ihad people tell me it was evidently clear especially at work that she was messing around with this other co-worker from work. We worked at the same place. She started seeing this guy who was a biker dude Harley Davidson all over everything. she started hanging out at the bike shop all the time buying all of these expensive HD clothes wearing black lipstick oh it was aweful. We lost the house, she didn't care we moved to an apartment nearly got evicted, she didn't care.Sure as heck not the woman I married. Then came the $400 speeding ticket in a place she had no business in in the first place. She threatened me with a weapon and then said I walked out on her. Ok if I stayed even after the cops were there in which they were, I'd be in jail. She threatened me with the weapon. In my state the man is always in the wrong by default. Besides the cops were women they wouldn't have listened to me. So I just got the heck out and am single again hoping to one day perhaps have it right again.
I'm never going to have material things for a very long time. I have no money, no anything really, and that includes credit. I am essentially destroyed in everything. In the time it takes to repair all of those things, I won't be interested anymore. I'm somebody who had worked hard for everything I had just to have it all taken away. Glad I never had kids to spare them from all of that.
If another woman was to really want me, she would want to have me for me because right now that's all that I am. She wouldn't be looking to me for credit, money, a house or any material thing because I don't have it. Besides, I am slightly disabled too, so I am not able to be the primary bread-winner. It's not that I wouldn't work, sure I would work. I work hard and am good at what I do but what I do is not anything super substantial monetarily. What I do is about the only thing in the world that will never go away because it's required by law. I don't have a college education because of my disability and the lack of funding to go have certain things done before I could ever think to try it again. I'm too old now to be worried about trivial things like college anyway. Why be indebted for the rest of my life to Sallie Mae?

Cool dawn and forget about women for a while. Start over and you are not too late to have another woman, but $$$ is what you need. There is many way to start with IF YOU WANT TO. Your situation is by no way less fortunate than me.